Do you find yourself continuously involved in relationships that:
- Don’t serve your best interests?
- Leave you feeling depleted or used?
- Don’t lift you up to access your full potential?
Our early childhood relationships and attachments create the template for which our future relationships are built. As children we learn about the world through our relationships; we create ideas about our worthiness based on the messages others send us about our adequacy as human beings. We form our identity and self-concept based on these relational experiences and create self-fulfilling patterns in our future engagements with others.
If you struggle in your relationships, the good news is that there are root causes to these struggles and that together we can uncover what they are and effectively re-establish who you are, first in relationship with yourself and second in your relationships with others.
“It’s Not My Relationships, It’s Me:” Struggles with Intimacy
Intimacy is expressive love and closeness. There is underlying emotional residue, accumulated from our pasts, that disrupts our ability to be intimate with another human being, whether sexually, psychologically or otherwise. What I find most often is that women who have trouble being intimate with their romantic partners and others in their lives, also have trouble being intimate with themselves. Whether it be due to a history of trauma, abandonment and neglect, or stemming from environmentally or self-cultivated doubt and worry, intimacy issues are the body’s way of telling the mind,”Look at me, I need to be attended to first, before you can attend to another.”
Yoga for Intimacy?
Yoga is the practice of cultivating an intimate relationship with oneself. The goal of yoga is self-actualization, or to learn the truth about oneself. In a yoga practice you are asked to sit with yourself without saying a word. You know how comforting it is to sit with an old friend? It feels so familiar and safe that words need not be spoken. This is the type of intimacy and comfort that yoga allows us to grow from within.
Intimacy is an act of love and yoga is a compassion practice, one that enables us to approach our body and mind from a space of respect, acceptance, curiosity, wonder, and ultimate love.
In addition, yoga is a vehicle that allows for a gentle release of stored trauma in the body. When we liberate our bodies of the residual tension that has seized it, our bodies and minds are able to receive love and pleasure from others- and first and foremost, from ourselves.
Together we can attend to the foundational issues that inform your present day struggles with relationships- this is absolutely the way to begin living the love-filled life you desire and deserve. Request an appointment today.